Hello there and welcome to my blog.  I am the mother of a teenager girl who is diagnosed with Pathological Demand Avoidance as part of the Autistic Spectrum. I have been inspired by my beautiful daughter to talk about the things we do to tackle the challenges that PDA bring. My blog sets out to help empower parents of PDA children and offer alternative ways of coping with this complex condition. I ask the question ‘why is this so?’ before I ask the question ‘What should I do?’ I look at getting to the source of the behavior, working holistically from the inside out rather than the outside in.  I write to offer hope through my own experience with PDA. I share with you how I thought big in a world that felt so small during a year long battle with OCD and school refusal after diagnosis. PDA is still in uncharted waters and we are all learning together to spread awareness and recognition of a condition that is little heard of and understood. I believe that LOVE is the best medicine we can ever bestow on ourselves and our children. We are British expats who made New Zealand our home 12 years ago.

I invite you to scroll down to the beginning of my blog as my writing has developed along with our journey and there are some useful tips and insights for those who are new to PDA. I offer strategies, ideas and advice, in the hope that my words and lessons can inspire and empower others to enjoy their own journey’s of self discovery and awareness. Please feel free to share my work, my wish is for hope to be felt as far as possible. I understand deeply what it is like to be at rock bottom with no feeling of hope or light. But I can assure you, the greater the darkness, the brighter the light is when you find it. As humans we never stop learning and growing. To share and to hold hands in the rain and the sun, is the message I would like you to take away and hold dear. Thanks guys. x

The best resources are found on the PDA Society website.


Thank you for taking the time to learn about PDA. x