PART 2. APRIL 2020.

Hi there and thanks for finding my blog. Whether you are interested in PDA as part of the autism spectrum, or you are interested in self development and the law of attraction, here you will find my journey into these topics. My name is Mel, I am currently 47 years old.

If you scroll down this ‘About’ section, you will discover that my blog was set up in 2016 as a response to the discovery of a little known autism condition called Pathological Demand Avoidance syndrome, of which my daughter was diagnosed. My journey as a parent to young girl who fought her way back to good health from OCD and extreme anxiety has brought me to where I am today. This blog will now expand to talk about the law of attraction, how we can create and control our lives through the thoughts we think and what I do to grow awareness of myself and subsequently others along the way.

My wish is to inspire others to tap into a new way of thinking. To offer pathways and ideas to those who have previously believed that life is a game of chance and that things just happen to them. To stir ideas so that others can find their own unique ways of knowing and growing themselves. To help others break the chains and patterns that generations of conditioning have held them back.

It is only through my own struggles that I have been able to find the light at the end of the tunnel. My passion is to put those thoughts and experiences into words.

My inspiration for part 2 of this blog, is grown from being a student of Abraham Hicks- The Law Of attraction and a student of my own life.



Hello there and welcome to my blog.  I am the mother of a teenager girl who is diagnosed with Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome as part of the Autistic Spectrum. I have been inspired by my beautiful daughter to talk about the things we do to tackle the challenges that PDA bring. My blog sets out to help empower parents of PDA children and offer alternative ways of coping with this complex condition. I ask the question ‘why is this so?’ before I ask the question ‘What should I do?’ I look at getting to the source of the behavior, working holistically from the inside out rather than the outside in.  I write to offer hope through my own experience with PDA. I share with you how I thought big in a world that felt so small during a year long battle with OCD and school refusal after diagnosis. PDA is still in uncharted waters and we are all learning together to spread awareness and recognition of a condition that is little heard of and understood. I believe that LOVE is the best medicine we can ever bestow on ourselves and our children. We are British expats who made New Zealand our home 12 years ago.

I invite you to scroll down to the beginning of my blog as my writing has developed along with our journey and there are some useful tips and insights for those who are new to PDA. I offer strategies, ideas and advice, in the hope that my words and lessons can inspire and empower others to enjoy their own journey’s of self discovery and awareness. Please feel free to share my work, my wish is for hope to be felt as far as possible. I understand deeply what it is like to be at rock bottom with no feeling of hope or light. But I can assure you, the greater the darkness, the brighter the light is when you find it. As humans we never stop learning and growing. To share and to hold hands in the rain and the sun, is the message I would like you to take away and hold dear. Thanks guys. x

If you are new to pda please follow this link to Jane Sherwins blog.


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